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Obituary for Ralph J. DeFeo

Ralph J. DeFeo, 63, of Vernon passed away peacefully in the comfort of his own home on April 1, 2023. Ralph was born on April 14, 1959 in Bronx, New York.

Being from the Bronx, Ralph was a die hard Yankees and Giants fan. His love especially for the game of baseball would daily be brought to life at Legion Field in Vernon. Not only would he coach his own team Sanitary Waste, but any youngster who wanted to put the time and effort into learning the mechanics of the game. Watching a 9 year old progress through the ranks to a 12 year old All-star player gave Ralph such pride. Ralph worked at Sanitary Waste, Waste Resources and Paines Inc.

Another love of Ralph's were is dogs. Whether it was showing his champion great danes or sitting on his chair with his cocker spaniels and chihuahua's or having his German shepherd laying at his feet, Ralph truly cherished his best friends, his dogs. For many years Ralph was an active member of the Cocker Spaniel Rescue of New England where he and Sherry made their home accessible to dogs in need.

Ralph leaves behind his wife and best friend of 22 years, Sherry DeFeo. He his also survived by his sister Debra Faniel and spouse Terrance, his twin brother Ron DeFeo and spouse Fiona and brother Joey DeFeo. Ralph had several nieces and nephews: Jessica Krajewski, Timothy Chace, Cameron Chace, Abigail Chace, Ashley and Victoria DeFeo and Draco DeFeo. Sherry DeFeo would like to give a special thank you to Steve Betts for being more like a "brother" to Ralph than a friend. He was predeceased by his parents Fred and Angelina "Cookie" DeFeo.

Calling hours will be held at Burke-Fortin Funeral Home, 76 Prospect St. Vernon, CT Saturday April 8th from 1 - 4 with a eulogy from 3:15 - 4:00.

In lieu of flowers donations can be made to the Kidney and Diabetes Foundations.